Self-Esteem Coach

15 Responses to “What are some good ways to improve your self-esteem?”

1. Savxgoesxrawr
   June 28th, 2009 at 8:36 pm

   

   I feel you. Therapists are always a good option. People think they don’t work but they really do.

2. Jennifer C
   June 30th, 2009 at 4:23 am

   

   Surround yourself with people you think as being lower than yourself.
   OR
   Think of all the flaws OTHER people have, and compare yourself with people who you think are worst off than you.

3. Pertty!!!!
   July 3rd, 2009 at 1:25 pm

   

   write down all the things you love about yourself! like for example
   1) you know how to write!
   2) you know how to read!
   3) maybe you can cook, i dunno but you know wat i mean!

4. Steven K
   July 6th, 2009 at 4:58 am

   

   Making fun of other people usually puts me in a good mood and improves my self esteem with absolutely no consequence

5. kimm
   July 8th, 2009 at 8:16 am

   

   it starts with getting healthy and feeling pampered. possibly take a bubble bath, listen to some mellow music. work out a lot and eat well. if your body feels good, eventually you will to.

6. mommyintime
   July 9th, 2009 at 12:50 am

   

   Treat yourself to a makeover. Nails, Hair Clothes and then meet some new people!

7. Ryan M
   July 9th, 2009 at 12:53 pm

   

   Try modifying your body in a revers able fashion. Like maybe a bull ring through the nose? Ok well you know what I mean?

8. Cat
   July 12th, 2009 at 1:51 am

   

   Work on developing your talents. If you don’t feel like you have any, find hobbies. You always feel better about yourself when there are things you do really well.

9. international_72521
   July 14th, 2009 at 5:08 pm

   

   I thought about what you just said for a second and I picture the act of looking at yourself in the mirror and and hating yourself in the perspective of someone standing there and looking at you and hating. The way you described it almost seems like you have two personalities. But honestly, out of all the people in the world, if you don’t like yourself, who will?

10. latinwoman
    July 17th, 2009 at 3:49 pm

    

    say positive things to yourself.. listen, I used to be like that.. I used to cry and say how ugly I was, how stupid I was..etc.. etc.. but, you know who loves me very very much.. God and ofcourse myself now.. look in the mirror and say what you did good that day.. who you prayed for, things that you did nice.. just don’t ever compare yourself to anyone else.. this is my motto: I am nothing less or nothing more than the person sitting next to me.. but, other ways are making good grades, losing some weight.. (if you are overweight only), try praying for people not in your surrounding area.. do good things for yourself and everyone around you.. just don’t let them step over you.. cus that tends to happen when you are too nice.. just be you.. love you for who you are.. you are beautiful except sometimes we don’t even know it… God Bless!

11. nessy
    July 20th, 2009 at 4:08 am

    

    get close friends to make a list of ur good
    features
    emotional and physical
    and copy all of the things they wrote on to your mirror in sharpy
    ps get a big mirrior and write it on the edges

    now YOU make a list of things you dont like about your personality and physical apperence

    digg deap and write it down

    get some friends together and burn it in a fire

12. Kutter Kat
    July 23rd, 2009 at 3:07 am

    

    Everytime you catch yourself doing negative self talk (such as ‘Im too fat’, or ‘I feel stupid’, or ‘I **** my hips’ etc….), Force yourself to focus on positive self talk (such as ‘A size 12 or 14 is the real size of todays woman, not a size 2′, or ‘I can do better on the next test, I just need to study more’, or ‘My hips are the hips of a woman, not an 8 year old girl, because I AM a woman’.). Negative self talk typically takes place in silence, in your own head (especially as your dressing for the day or an occasion), but you just have to replace the negative thoughts with the positive.
    Good luck to you!

13. john s
    July 24th, 2009 at 6:12 pm

    

    Exercise is one of the best ways to improve your self esteem. Counseling is always an option although primary care physicians are a good place to start. They can diagnose symptoms and prescribe medications for common health concerns. Such as depression or adult attention deficit disorder. Prescriptions may not be the best solution but they may help jump start a diet and exercise program.

14. Jessica B
    July 25th, 2009 at 12:04 am

    

    I can only imagine how that feels.
    I think I’ve probably been close to feeling the same way about myself. You deserve the best because your human. Are you not? and your a woman. EVERY woman and man deserves a joy filled life. Write all the things you want to be. If you don’t think your kind at all, which, I’m sure you are at least somewhat!, make a goal to try to be more kind to the people around you. Help you to become a person you’ll love.

15. Ego Fatigo
    July 25th, 2009 at 10:42 pm

    

    Low self-esteem is a difficult thing to overcome, I agree. It becomes such a habit to focus on your negatives - weight, looks, talents - that you often can’t see what your positives are - weight, looks, talents…

    It’s about thinking differently.

    The Buddha said this, once: “It is your thoughts that create this world.”

    Now whether you’re a believer or not, most every spiritual and self-help ‘guru’ will tell you, in one way or another, that you are what you think about.

    So, simply, stop thinking such negative thoughts about yourself. I mean does it help to do so? Does it really? Wouldn’t it be much more fun if you only thought good things about yourself, or if you thought about the bad stuff then you quickly forgave yourself and instead focussed on your qualities (like any best friend would do).

    If you don’t know how to think differently, then I suggest you go to Amazon and do a search for recommended self-help book. I can HIGHLY recommend anything by Guy Finley!

    I’ll leave you with this tip from Mike Jennings…

    “Stop comparing yourself to others”

    Good luck. Loving yourself ain’t easy, but it absolutely is worth it…